He knows the truth. You know the truth. I'm sorry for whatever you and the children are going through... and u have a lot of good advice on these comments as i can see from some understanding people. And remember this ,the truth is always out there and it always wants to be found :)

Sorry but had dealings with suspect police behaviour. This may sound ignorant but truth is its a corrupting job and many police are simply police so they have some authority over other people and will wield it as much as possible to satisfy their own lack of independent head space. These people are not to be trusted in any way what so ever. My advice is cover your but with as much paperwork as you can. I do know we have some amazing judges here and they are not fooled by the local cops and their lack of proper use of the law. Or the way they bend the law to their own uses.

If a condition of the AVO states that you have "no contact" then they'll claim that you breached the AVO. Apparently, breaching an AVO can lead to serious consequences like jail time. I hope you get this sorted out.

A very complex issue. Here I would rather rely on Courts of Justice and Law rather than individuals' personal lies and perverted opinions. However not 100% sure either way.

I thought all contact had to be through your lawyers!

I was once accused of a crime I didn't do and being the police could not charge me with the intended crime they charged me with $2 worth of stealing just so I lost my job on the financial sector. I hate the police and will never support the corrupt maggots again after that.

Pedophiles are drawn to careers that give them access to children, people who want to have power over others and rort the system are also drawn positions that give them the authority to do so. Many police are great, but don’t kid yourselves, the only difference between those in the force and those that are on the other side is the uniform. They all know each other. Do you guys have any idea how many guns that were handed into cop shops during the gun amnesty ended up back on the streets and used in armed robberies etc? I can give you a first hand account. Drugs that go missing from evidence after raids? Cops will back cops, that’s why this lady has an intervention order placed upon hr. Abuse of power and she can do nothing about because she will be unsafe. That is a cold hard fact.

I am so sorry to hear that. I CAN BELIEVE YOU. However, try to just stick to the facts and do not let any lies or bullshit he is saying upset you. When my ex and I split up - because absolutely no one else knew what was going on earlier my ex made up all this rubbish about me. I totally over-reacted to everything. If I had my time again - I would STAY CALM and ignore any bullshit. I am so sorry for you and send you lots of love and hugs. Remember ... you will NEVER stop corrupt police - I saw them steal money out of my son's car once and turned to me laughing - "you never saw that did you". Fortunately there are also a lot of wonderful ones. VERY BEST WISHES TO YOU. LOTS OF HUGS.;

Corruption permeates every circle in society. But regardless of what happens and for how long, honesty always comes out victorious in the end.

I hate to say its police work for government and themself not for peoples how tax pay you here time after time they do bad things to good peoples. Most polices around the world are corruption. Long time ago meet a man said to me if i became a police officer i be lucky be good policeman for 5 yeats them i be corruption/etc. Good lucky god be on your side. Now i know why god didn't want me to be a go to school to be a police officer as my soul can't do bad things to others just good.

Not all policeman are corrupt there are also policeman that are good.

I am sure this is not the full story

How come you fell in love with him?

I think it’s horrible that police intervene in situations like this.

The cops have all the same rules to follow that you have AND police oversight laws to govern behaviour on and offduty. File a complaint and let the system deal with the situation.

I really don't feel this is a topic for open discussion, especially as police corruption is suggested. What I do know is that if there is an AVO on you you can't contact or go anywhere near the person who instigated the AVO. I think you have violated the AVO by using the app.

There’s always two sides to the story

There still seems to be some parts of your story that are missing, coz there's always two sides in a relationship. It's a shame tho, if your ex is abusing his office. Hope things work out. There has to be a minister or some external department that you can get help from.

Police brutality goes on too much and needs to be stopped.

Sorry to hear of your experience. .though can't be extended to all of Australian police we have had nothing but positive experiences with them including having a violent ex taken away.

AS A YOUNG ADULT I HEARD ABOUT POLICE TAKING BENEFITS FROM SMALL BUSINESS, things like lollies, cigarettes all to be handed over for free to police, also the overwhelming corruption in the treatment of prostitutes by the police, I thought this had been corrected as I grew up but the last few years seem to show that such is not the case, some people cannot be trusted even with small powers because it leads to belief they can do whatever they want just by the power of wearing the uniform.

Police corruption in Australia, that's unbelievable, thats like saying our politicians are dishonest!!!

Sorry to hear this. I've seen a fair amount of terrible behavior from police over the years. Had police lie in court right in front of me, blame me for things I had nothing to do with at all, physically and sexually abuse friends. Some are on the payroll here turning a blind eye to certain stuff. And this is in a relatively nice area. I know there are some good police but it's hard to trust police in general for many people. As I pointed out to another poster, most people I know won't even call the police if something bad happened to them.

I really don’t have any these issues

What is the possible charge? Is a violation of the AVO because of sending the message? Are you supposed be no contact at all? Did the court give consent for you to use the app to contact him despite the AVO being in place? That seems odd. You need a good lawyer to advise you. Don't wait for them to charge you and do not speak to the police without the lawyer present. I hope it works out for you.

Unfortunately, the police department is corrupted from the top and until they start over with police who haven't been corrupted then there is no hope for the police force. Victoria even brought a new police commissioner out from England at one time, but the current police hierarchy rolled him so he returned to England. What hope has any normal citizen got with that going on?

If they're not on take they bully, I was out with a friend for dinner when there was an adult one someone and as we left the restaurant the police come up to us to ask us questions, the officer did like the look of my friend and baled him up against the wall real hard which winded my friend. Real charming.

Individuals do as they please in any organisation. You could always make an official complaint tot he Police Complaints Tribunal but in all honesty it's likely to make things worse. If you remember the Fitzgerald Enquiry into Police Corruption you'll find they only looked at gambling and a bit of prostitution which no one doubted was happening. They did not even look at the hard ones like Corruption over Drugs or official malpractice by the police so it was basically all for nothing.

He’s treating his children’s mother this way? Speaks volumes.

I feel so sorry you and the kids Kat, good luck with everything, Just remember we are all human and people often do things that they regret

Your husband is a duck (kiwi spelling) and karma is a butch (again kiwi spelling)...good lick heart smiley face heart

Oh wow that happens in the States also but with people speaking on such things it's getting better

I didnt realise this would upset some people so much. I value everyones opinion thankyou. I appreciate your comments

someday you may need the help of the police remember that

sounds like a war where there is no winner ,do whats right for the kids and yourself

walk a day in their shoes before you make stupid comments

ALL THE COP ARE ON SOMEONE PAYROLL

That's terrible and so shameful. He should not be allowed to do that at all. What were you arrest for? They have to have a reason, Don't they? There is a department you can complain to and if I were you I would do it pronto. Do things in writing to as they have to respond to a letter and make sure you keep copies. My hubby was once being harassed by a cop and he had been assaulted at work by a doctor and nothing was been done about his case so we complained. He was accused by the cop for wanting money out of the doctor oh and it's going to affect his livelihood well blow me down with a feather wasn't my hubby just trying to do his job. The doctor got off on a good behaviour bond without any record being recorded so thanks to the courts the doctor can live his life with out any recourse for his actions. Quite frankly he should have been deregistered immediately but no the court was on his side. We never went civilly with the courts but we did get a cheque from the court as compensation which was a joke really as after that my hubby couldn't do the job any more. Another reason why we left and took off on our trip around Australia.

Police are human there make mistakes like all of us. I do feel sorry for your situation. You must try to ride out this situation, good luck

Welcome to the Great Tribulation! Next...Armageddon! Please read Matthew 24:13,14 and 36, and Revelation 16:16. How do I know where we are in this system? Read 2 Timothy 3:1-5 and Matthew Chapter 24 in it's entirety to see how it was prophesied how people will be acting during this time of the end. Don't take my word. Read it for yourself. Agree to disagree and please don't belittle or bully me for what I read to be true in the Bible. I'm just the messenger, as Jesus asked us to be.

Definitely sek some advice Kat , anyone can see that he has is nose out of joint and he is abusing the law that he is sworn to uphold. Good Luck

And these are the same people who took an oath to uphold the law?? .... what a joke! To use you Kat and other female partners as 'punching bags' re: their 'parenting skills' (and I use the last word loosely), is disgusting. Where is the respect for women?? Obviously putting on a uniform gives them some sort of 'right'?? ... Bullshit! Coppers .... (in this situation), the lowest of the low in my opinion! Edited 25-Feb-23 11:17am

Police. what are they really for. Keep the lawyers in Bussiness. Keep a certain percentage of the poulation behind bars, never to much, never to little. Protect the polticians. So he has used some of this to his personal advantage. So you don't want to spend to much on lawyers that is all part of the trick. can petitions help?

Some police in Australia use the system to bully and harass the ex-partners. The others help keep society functioning in a reasonably moral manner. Nothing is pure.

there is corruption in every arm of the government and law

The more senior the more corrupt

The powers-that-be, are using the police for their own ends, particularly in Victoria, Australia.

Yes some people use the system and the are corrupt

There are bad people in all organisations; the larger the organisation, potentially the more bad people there are. Unfortunately, a role such as police officer gives access to more information and avenues to behave in this way. If they associate with officers of similar attitude, they can carry out more bullying without being stopped. They know the right words to use. I hope that your situation is resolved soon with good support and advice.

personally I think that u shouldn't let this sad excuse 4a man use his position of power to prey on you, play his game back to him go into a unrelated police station of higher ranking and report his discusting behaviour 2his superiors, maybe keep afew hidden cameras around any premises ur staying at and don't delete any messages or phone calls he makes 2u, I wish you all the best and hope he gets his just deserves

There is corruption everywhere from politics down. Learn to ask better questions. Dont forget Women also bullies, some of the best.

Of course there are Corrupt Police Officers and some of them are at the very top. For decades the Queensland Police Service (Australia) was rotten from top to bottom and they got away with it because the then National Government of Queensland was every bit as Corrupt and Dishonest. There will always be Corrupt, Dishonest men and women in everything, the police, politicians, commerce, the army, air force, navy, religious leaders - the list is endless for it is not just those at the bottom of the social ladder who are Criminals. Take our politicians. They use Taxpayer's money as if it was their Lottery win. They expect, and mostly get away with it because those checking on them are every bit as corrupt, they think they have the Right to live a life free of all cost to themselves. They get Free Transport to and from work, they conveniently arrange for themselves to be appointed to Parliamentary Committees and Delegations for which they get even more money - they are like all those CEOs, CFOs at the top of the Commerce Ladder who grant themselves Multi Million Dollar Bonuses every year for simply doing the job they are already very highly paid to do! If that is not Legal Corruption I don't know what it is. Our politicians swan around the world at Taxpayer's expense. Not for any of them a cheap Hotel, B&B, or Motel. Only Top of the Range 5-star luxury with Michelin Star Wining and Dining - all paid for by the Taxpayers. If, and there most certainly will be, there are Corrupt, Dishonest police then they are only following the lead of the politicians and other greedy, self-seeking garbage.

People have to realise that the police are just other people in uniforms, you will get the good the bad and the ugly in all careers. Workplaces are just the grown up version of the schoolyard. Are some police using there position to bully people, hell yes, but many more are helping, guiding and caring about society. Please don't throw them all under the bus, a day might come when you need their assistance and you won't recognise the good ones if you focus on a few bad apples

oh yes, I have experienced it first hand. Corrupt politicians needs corrupt police to do their bidding. And the justice system is no better. Anything government ruled is rotten.

To believe there aren't any corrupt police is a little, no a lot, naïve. there are bad people in every field. The best way to avoid any confrontation with these bad guys is to live within the law at all times.

This must of been a harrowing experience for you Kat. However, I think that like in all jobs, there are good and bad. I also believe that police do stick together but this is not uncommon in any field of work. My thoughts are with the innocents of this and that is the children you share. They must be feeling the loss of both of you together. Work it out properly with their interests coming first.

i belive because there in a uniform they can do and get away with any think

I am surprised that is going on in Australia, then again, maybe not. My ex father-in-law was a policeman in Australia somewhere in the outback. I never met him, but while I was married to his adopted son, we received word from Queensland that he had driven over his wife with his car! If it would have been my parents, I would have been on the first plan down there, but my husband didn't seem too concerned. My ex learned that his mother had become an alcoholic, and her husband wouldn't let her drive. I don't know what happened, but I think it was an accident. I never did find out, but evidently she wanted the car keys. I lived there for six months, and there was very little crime or any type except for a stabbling. Nothing like what we have here in the US. I think the police are fed up with all the drug activity that is so out of control and the bottom of most crime here. In your case, it is a personal matter which shouldn't be allowed because it's so obvious what is going on. I wish you the best. Get a good lawyer and kick his ass in court! Good luck!

I agree with Peter E with his very fair sounding and well thought out response. Just adding that there are impressionable and very fragile children involved this tug-of-war if of what the real problem is..

This would be unfair. Let the courts handle it.

Doesn't surprise me. They are an elitest group everywhere in the world and once you're no longer one of their own, especially romantically, they show they even brighter true colors. I've been manhandled by the police and injured bc I didn't hand them my magazine I was reading fast enough. Their a joke. I'm sorry for you, but moreover the kids. They'll grow up hating their dad. So sad.

Where I live our police are decent and support the citizens, I am sorry to hear how some are treated in other places.

I have never had any problems with the Police I find they do a good job in my local town and would ask for there help if I needed it

I wasn't arrested only interviewed at the police station about bully and harass other female on public transport a long time ago.

I was arrested for asking about my kids. The original was approved because he said hes frightened of me. I only contact him thru a court appointed app regarding my kids. I just want him to stop making false accusations to police. Im just trying to parent my kids

I think there is more to this than we know.

That does sound rather biased and unjustified

Corruption is at all time high everywhere in the world, in all official institutions, government departments, even lawyers who we come to for help. The Good Book says He/She who persevere, will realish their day in court. Yes and the is without a doubt, the wicked will suffered ten fold

I don't trust police at all. They are not doing their jobs right. They use force to kill instead of trying to use force to subdue. They think they are better than everyone else. Not all police are bad but I certainly don't want to deal with them. This is where Cellphones and dash cam comes in handy to catch them doing what is wrong.

Never trust the police

Ummmm as all my experience is that ALL police are and have been very supportive and excellent to deal with and thank goodness they are in our Communities. Especially with what they have to put up with - both physically and mentally.

You have rights! After all us folk from the baby boomers generation’s fought for these! Sounds like you need a good lawyer/legal aid, you will be advised to be very careful of what you say, as you’ve quoted word’s can be taken out of context and then come back to haunt you. Take care to protect yourself and your children, your feeling’s are hurt and your let down, and children never forget. Try and get as much support as you can ie woman’s refuge, social development, counselling, be one step ahead of your EX! Take care, be strong…

I guess it's sort of natural if one has either a job or friends that they think they can use to their advantage. Is sad that your situation has become so nasty. Trust you can both work things out to the best for the children

That definitely an abuse of Power on his part

This is an isolated event

Good and bad in everything but I do believe many police can be very cruel. America seems there is a lot of police brutality but have also seen police with compassion. In Melbourne the police were really bad during the pandemic but mouthy politicians encouraged it. As kids we were always taught to run to the police if we needed help but now I would . have second thoughts on that. To be honest also, many police see the real downside of human beings that could turn most people. I could also see ex partners get the worse of the deal

I think they should all of the bad polices everywhere and hired good polices.

You need to report this to the Police Complaints Authority (or its equivalent) and request a Family Court hearing.

You cannot be arrested without a charge, and I'd be interested to know what this was.

There should be more evaluation on those who want to be cops. I have a Bachelors in Criminal Justice but I’m also a felon so I see it from both sides. We need to teach our children respect and make sure there is proper evaluations of police officers.when i was younger m friends and I were at a local bar when one of our local cops who was married came in and started hitting on my friend but looked down on us. Compassion and fairness are what is needed also just because you have a badge does not mean you are always right.

I AM BLACK - I RESIDE IN THE USA - WELCOME TO MY WORLD (AKA THE AMERICAN NIGHTMARE 'NOT' THE AMERICAN DREAM)!

Not sure of corruption, but I have noticed on the news whether in Canada or the USA they sometimes are way to violent to offenders ect..

not sure how it works there but sounds like you need to go to the press and tell your story

Police Departments, of officers and District attorney are all part of corrupted Justice System. It's been that way for way to long

I believe police officers all stick together. I have seen that several times over the years. That being said. I honestly believe most are not corrupt. They might genuinely care about their job and justice. In fact I knew a couple of police officers in my city and they went above and beyond . I honestly believe it is our justice system that is corrupt and in need of a huge fix

It is hard to trust the police as they seem to protect their own before looking at the facts.

Depends on a lot of things. If you have a no contact avo, but with special conditions that you can contact regarding the children thru the court appointed app and the message is clearly in relation to approved activities (such as picking up and drop off arrangements) then I would be contacting the police complaints area in your state. It may pay to check with a lawyer or legal aid to clarify the conditions of your avo and make sure the message didn’t breach those conditions first. If you’re in the clear, then take it as far as you can. Google reporting police misconduct in your state. Report him and the officers that interviewed you. Don’t contact his station. The higher up you go, the less they tolerate this kind of behaviour. But definitely go over your AVO with someone and read all the conditions and make sure nothing has been breached.