a bit so

a wee bit

maybe they just wanted you to get an invitation?

One would have thought that your attendance would have been a given, but who knows these days?

No your not being silly ,your the mother of the bride so no formal invite

THEY ARE OKAY

Don't really understand your discussion, but if you're 'put out' spending your money now just wait til you get grandkids! Plus you would be more upset if they didn't formally invite you.

No.its an example of "tradition" at its worst.

I think it is fine

That’s strange, not silly - so you will be not at the wedding? Unless they are planning a very small, one, so where goes your money?

You get the announcement/invitation as a memento. My daughter sent one to me as well

It's being courteous, the correct thing to do.

HUH

I did not invite my parents to my wedding (ugly history between me and my parents and stepparents) and I did not expect (or wanted my parents and stepparents) to pay for anything at my wedding! Furthermore, I do not know 'if' you are being 'silly' (?) - to answer your question.Edited 08-Jan-23 11:32am

It is their day not yours. Yes you are paying for it but one would think you would love doing that as long as it was within the budget you set. As for the invitation, I was given one by my son and it is a lovely keepsake. I find nothing wrong with it. Enjoy the day and all the bits and pieces pre wedding day.

No. You should definitely have a place of honor at their wedding.

No, My son and daughter in law took advantage, of me.... they thought my check book was there's and when I put a cap on spending... I was called cheap